Bondage Safety and Guidelines
By: Jon Gammon
With all sexual activities, safety should always be the first thing on the list. This holds true for Bondage as well. If you are looking to engage in bondage and have some concerns, read the guidelines and safe practices associated with bondage. It could make the difference between a night of sexual indulgence or a night of utter fright and pain.
Spanking your partner can be fun and erotic for the both of you. It is total turn on for some people to spank their partners, however, there are some general rules that you should consider before spanking.
When spanking you need know your boundaries. Communicate with your partner and find out what he/she likes and dislikes, if this is your first time start off light, then gradually make the strikes more intense. This will help the two of you know each others limitations, and make the spankings more enjoyable.
Make sure you incorporate a safe word. This way if the play goes too far, the word is said and the action is to stop. This is very important, especially when trying new things.
Never strike directly on the bone of your partner. This is extremely painful. Also, other areas that should never be spanked are the neck and the lower back. It is a good idea not to strike behind the knees either. There are main blood arteries there that could be damaged.
Make sure any of the sexual aids that you will be using for the spankings meet the approval of both you and your partner. It is best whey you both pick out the toys.
Practice with your sex toys, strike yourself first to see how it feels; remember the intensity of the strike so you know how hard to strike for the same result. Of course, everyone's pain threshold is different, so you still need to proceed with caution in this area. Just make sure you know the toy and how to use it before bringing it into play.
Restraining is fun, there is nothing more exhilarating than being tied up and having your partner have his or her way with you. The body can reach a state of total bliss when one is enjoying every inch of their partners body - and they can't do a thing about it. Know this; one should keep some common guidelines in their minds so that the restrained partner isn't at any risk.
Make sure you NEVER, EVER leave your restrained partner unattended for any length of time. You never know what can happen, and believe me anything and everything can happen the moment you thought that it couldn't. Fires, burglaries, and good ole Mother Nature, have a way of showing their ugly heads when you least expected.
Make sure your partner is restrained in a comfortable and safe place. Let your partner know when something doesn't feel right, and remember you are both there for each others PLEASURES. If one of you is not enjoying something, the pleasure part goes away.
A very important aspect of restraining is to make sure that the restraints are not too tight or restricting PROPER air flow. You want the restraints secure, but not so secure that you are restricting the ability to breathe, or cutting off blood circulation.
Never tie anything around the neck or genitals, and take caution when tying around the wrist and ankles. Tying has the chance of tightening up during play, so periodically check the restraints and make sure they are not causing problems.
As with flogging, make sure the two of you have safe words, so that if it gets out of hand, the word is said and the action stops immediately. Employ time limits; you don't want to be tied up for more time than you can handle. Usually no more than an hour in any given position, and if it is a new position make sure you take it easy the first couple of times.
Communicate with your partner, and find out what they are and are not enjoying. This is as much for them as it is for you, so know the expectations before and during play, and always know each others limitations. If you are unsure of what each other's limitations are take it slow and find out.
This is supposed to be enjoyable for both parties involved. So know each other's likes and dislikes, what your expectations are, and make it safe and risk free. Doing this will help ensure that you will get the most out of your bondage experiences.
About the Author
Jon Gammon is the author and webmaster at SexToyAlley.com.