Lubricants - Making Relationships Smooth
Adding a personal lubricant to your love making may be the number one way to improve your sex life immediately, right now, tonight. Talk about instant gratification!
While a little friction is definitely desirable, too much friction can make things uncomfortable for everyone - just like in every day life. That’s obvious, but somehow, some people have neglected to add a little extra slip to the lovin’ slide.
Maybe you haven’t experimented with lubricants because you just don’t know which one to choose. Or maybe it’s because you or your partner still think that using a lubricant means that one of you isn’t “turned on enough the good old fashioned way”.
Well, since we love making people happy, here is some news you can use to make your next sensual purchase easy as pie!
Before anyone starts shaking their head, talking ‘bout how they don’t need any help, here are a few very common reasons for irritating dryness at a time when you want the juices to flow.
You’re ready, willing, and almost able. Your physical response to arousal may or may not produce the wetness you need for pleasurable intercourse. Often the amount of lubrication your body produces is not even directly connected to how aroused you are.
Common medications can cause dryness. Below we list just a few – be sure to ask your doctor if you have questions about whether any of your medications can cause dryness. And remember, if your medication causes your mouth, nose, or eyes to become dry, it will probably cause vaginal dryness as well!
- Most allergy medications
- Blood pressure medications
- Birth control pills
- Some antibiotics
Age. Yep, let’s face it. Lots of things about our bodies change as we progress from barely ripe 18 year olds, to the more mature goddess-like creatures we are now. Some effects of aging as we approach (or pass through) menopause are decreased lubrication, along with a change in vaginal tissue elasticity and acidity. This can cause discomfort or pain during intercourse. So add a good lubricant and let the good times roll!
Dehydration. Start drinking your eight glasses of water daily, and you may find that you feel suddenly younger in the bedroom!
Types of Lubricants
Now that you know you can be a sexy hot momma, in charge and on top (yes, pun intended), by adding a lubricant to your love life, how do you choose one? Well, keep reading.
There are many types of personal lubricants available, however at Scarlet Girl we prefer water-based lubricants for a variety of reasons. Below is some basic info, so you can decide for yourself which lube is the best lube for you.
Oil based products (such as petroleum jelly, hand lotion, or vegetable oil) can quickly break down a latex condom, leaving you and your partner unprotected against pregnancy or infection. Oil can also be difficult for your body to “wash away”, which can create a safe little haven for a nasty bacterial invasion. Yuck!
These are generally recommended as the safest, most body-friendly of personal lubricants. Because your body easily flushes out water-based lubricants, they are less likely than other types of lubricants to cause irritation or infection.
Another benefit of a water-based lubricant is that you can easily wash it out of your sheets, towels, and lingerie.
A possible drawback to a water-based lubricant is that it can tend to absorb or dry up, requiring re-application. As they dry some water-based lubes can begin to feel slightly sticky, or tacky. This can vary between brands and consistencies.
Silicon lubricants offer great staying power, because they do not dry up the way water based lubricants can. They are safe with condoms, and there is also little, if any, tackiness ever.
However, there are certain drawbacks. You cannot use a silicone-based lubricant with silicon or cyber skin toys, because silicone toys will break down when used with a silicone-based lubricant.
Because silicone is not water-soluble it can be difficult to wash out of sheets or lingerie. Additionally, because it is not water-soluble the body does not “wash away” the lubricant as easily as a water-based product.
Choosing a Lubricant
The best way to choose a lubricant is to try a couple, and pick one based on your personal preference. This can be based on the thickness or consistency, how long it lasts, the flavor, or other features like warming or numbing qualities. And in our opinion, lubricants are like shoes – you need different ones for different moods and occasions!
Thin: A liquid lubricant is slightly thicker than water. Liquid lubricants like Astroglide (water based) or System Jo (silicon based) are quite thin, and have a texture that is very close to a woman’s own natural lubrication. Because it is thin, and very similar to the body’s natural lubrication, it absorbs quickly and may not last as long as some thicker lubricants. It may dry slightly tacky, but is easily washed off of body and fabrics.
Thick: Cream lubricants like Hydra Smooth or ID Cream are a newer choice in the world of sensual lubricants. A cream lubricant is slightly thicker than a liquid lubricant, so it lasts a little longer. The creamy texture is smooth, and similar to that of a rich facial moisturizer. Cream type lubricants typically absorb well, if somewhat more slowly, and provide only slight tackiness, if any, when they dry.
Thicker: Gel lubricants, like Embrace or Wet, are among the thickest available. Gel lubricants are especially good when including sex toys or anal play in love-making. Because a gel lubricant is thicker (much the same consistency of a hair gel) it stays where you put it and lasts longer than many cream or liquid lubricants. Most gel lubricants, like Embrace, will also slightly re-hydrate so as you get wetter, or add saliva or water, the lubricant will last and last. This makes gel lubricants great for sex in the water!
Thickest: Jelly lubricants, like KY Jelly, are even thicker than gels. These lubricants were originally formulated for medical procedures and generally jelly lubricants absorb quickly, so their glide does not last very long.
Now that you know what to look for in a good lubricant, have fun deciding which one is your favorite!
Article author, Vicki Kriner, is a small business owner and sometime author with nearly two decades in the world of customer service, business building, and the general realm of helping others succeed.
She books Scarlet Girl shows and other lectures in Portland, OR and the San Francisco Bay Area of CA. Her eclectic professional background runs the gamut from horse trainer, to mentor, and her greatest joy lies in finding solutions for clients, networking, and creating sustainable business growth.