Why Valentine's Day Matters, Even if it Doesn't
Just kidding; but not really. Because if being treated to shiny red hearts and roses today matters to your partner, then it should matter to you, too.
Why? Because doing the small things that make your partner happy go a long way toward making life happy for you too.
Whether you think Feb. 14 is a crappy Hallmark Holiday, or a wildly bastardized version of a pagan celebration (Lupercalia; very interesting, check it out!), what really matters is what it means in your relationship.
Here's the deal, lovers, and it's simple. We humans sometimes have much more of a herd mentality than we like to admit. When everyone else is displaying visual indicators of a partners affection, it can make you a little sad if your partner didn't do the same for you.
Yes, we know it's silly, and that love cannot be measured in Mylar, chocolate, and soon-to-be-dead flowers. But to that teeny little lizard brain hiding deep inside all of us, these gifts can still feel a little like markers of value as a mate. I KNOW; I told you it's ridiculous. But that doesn't change the fact that it feels delightful to receive objects of ardor, on a day dedicated to love.
And who doesn't like to be wooed? You did a lot of charming, gift giving, and symbolic gestures when trying to convince your partner to choose you, don't stop now just because you won your mate over. That's a race you should never stop running, if you want to create a life of blissful togetherness.
So here it is; Valentine's Day doesn't actually matter. We get it. But if you want to break it down like that, neither do most of the other holidays you celebrate with such enthusiasm.
Birthday? Pish, literally millions of people share the same date, and we all managed to be born.
Halloween? Yeah, your Cher costume isn't exactly honoring the spirits of your dead ancestors.
So, if showing up with a handful of flowers, and a card* puts a gleam in your partner's eye, and triggers a memory of how you couldn't wait to jump each others bones during the initial courting period, do it. Those feelings of affection benefit you too.
* Always write a personal note in the card. If you just sign your name, and let Hallmark do all the talking, it doesn't actually count. Trust me, I'm an expert on these things.